Boiling Frogs

Ok, just for the record I have never boiled a frog, nor am I advocating that any of you do it!  But….if you know anything about boiling frogs (and, again what I know is from reading about it, NOT doing it!) I think it is very relevant to the bariatric population, please let me explain….

If you want to boil a frog you simply put it in cold water and then turn on the heat.  The increase in temperature is so slow and gradual that the frog will sit quite calmly in an open pot, not realizing what is going on until it literally boils to death!  If you had started with water that was already boiling and thrown the frog in, it would immediately jump out as the water is too hot.

I suspect many of you living with the disease of  morbid obesity are literally like the frog calmly sitting in boiling water.  The weight gain has come on so gradually, and the changes in your body have been so slow that you haven’t noticed, or you thought you were “getting old”.  For instance if you went to bed on Monday and you weighed 200 lbs and you woke up tuesday at 350 lbs you would immediately realize that the situation required treatment and you would get into action right away.

Many of you are in that situation except you gained 100 or more lbs over 5 or 10 years and you just adapted.  At first your doctor told you “You know, you need to lost 30 lbs”, but you thought, “Everyone I know needs to lose 30 lbs, and besides that back pain I have is because I’m not 18 anymore”.

A couple years later your doctor is telling you, “You really are about 50 lbs overweight, and you know your blood pressure seems a little high”, and you tell yourself, “OK, so I need to lose a few lbs, but who doesn’t? (in fact, looks like the doc could afford to lose a few) and everyone in my family has high blood pressure, I’ll just watch the salt, and I’ll be OK”.

Since your blood pressure is a little high your doctor wants to come back in 6 months, and what do you know, you tacked on another 5 lbs. He’s gonna “start you on some medication to help the blood pressure, and by the way your cholesterol is still high, and he wants to check you sugar because your risk of diabetes goes up as your weight goes up, didn’t you know that?”  And you think to yourself “Ok, so I’m 40 now and I need to take a pill for my pressure, doesn’t everybody?  That diabetes thing sounds scary though, didn’t grandma lose her leg to diabetes? Man, my back is killing me, maybe I should see someone about it….?”

I hope you get my point.  If all of this had happened in a day (or a week) you would have immediately been in action, but since it was so slow and over such a long period of time you thought it was somehow “natural”, but it isn’t. 

It isn’t natural to have diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, sleep apnea, back and joint pain, not be able to play with your kids, or grandkids etc.  Almost all of these problems can be completely resolved or dramatically improved with weight loss (by the way, if you don’t have any of these problems, congratulations, but do something before you do!)

Support Group

The theme for this month’s support group is healthy food shopping, Karla and Gwen have organized a shopping trip to Trader Joe’s.  I know you’ve had the problem before, you are at the supermarket and your looking at labels trying to decide what is healthy…and you just aren’t sure.  Well we’ve got the solution for you….a class trip! 

The support groups will meet at the usual place: 200 South Orange Ave, Livingston, NJ for about a half hour or so and then go to the Trader Joe’s in Florham Park where Karla will go thru some actual shopping, it should be very educational!

The dates for the support groups are as follows:

Wednesday June 10th for patients who had surgery less than one year ago
Wednesday June 17th for all of our band patients
Wednesday June 24th for patients who had surgery over one year ago

Again they all start at 6 pm and then head over to Trader Joe’s about 30 to 45 minutes later for some “healthy food shopping”.


Many of you have asked about patient information seminars.  I am going to start having them on every other Wednesday starting on June 24th.  It will be a very informal introduction to what bariatric surgery is all about and what different options are available.  It will be held at the office.  If you would like more info or know someone who might be interested in attending please email us at:

End Quote:

“Life isn’t about finding yourself, life is about creating yourself”
George Bernard Shaw

Thanks for reading and trusting me with your healthcare, it is not something I take lightly

Michael Bilof

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